… because i still don’t understand where the internet comes from

i love taking pictures, being in pictures, and looking at pictures.  i like the idea of being able to capture a moment and freeze time.  and i like that looking at a single picture can you take you back to a different place.  and by now, i hope you know that i genuinely care about what people are doing, what they are thinking, and how they are feeling.  and if you know these two things, you can probably guess that i find extreme value in social media sites.  you might even know that i am a facebook stalker and a little obsessed with instagram.

facebook has connected me to resources and has helped me answer different questions.  some of the most interesting and thought-provoking articles i have read came from friends sharing them via social media. and when you don’t get to see your precious little niece on a daily basis, at least all of these sites can help you watch her grow.

to put it simply, i love the immediacy of it all. and i like the conversations they can start. i like that it helps you be part of someone’s life, no matter how far away you are or when you last knew one another.  for me, facebook is a tool to keep in touch and a way of knowing how others are doing. instagram lets me know how people perceive their world, and twitter gives me a sneak peak into what people are thinking.  while all similar and different, their supposed purpose is the same:  to bring people together. 

but i wonder if it is has.

i began to realize that facebook wasn’t serving its purpose when i would spend more time reading about someone’s life than talking to them about it. i started to wonder if the more i was updated about their minute to minute activities meant the less and less i would really know and understand them. because in the midst of connecting with friends, i started to get caught up in the description of their lives-what they were eating for breakfast, what color they painted their nails, and what they looked like for the day- rather than understanding how they are living. i am not sure when i decided i would rather write someone a two sentence birthday comment over singing “happy birthday” in my out of tune voice over the phone, or mailing a handwritten card full of love. and when did it become easier to have personal conversations over the internet instead of in a cafe?

what i am trying to say is that i started to feel impersonal. 

my use of social media has turned into waking up in the morning and checking all three sites before i start my day. it has turned into compulsive checking and ‘refreshing’ pages and pausing to take a picture before eating so that the rest of the world could see that i was.  my use of social media has turned into a way to know someone without really getting to know them. and an occasional update now feels like an obligation to let people know what i am doing.  the truth is, i have allowed these sites to take up more time than they are worth.  i’ve lost, spent, and given away so much of my time that i end up not doing the things i intended because i choose to click mindlessly to page after page.i end up being less productive and more distracted. i spend less time being present in my life and more time learning about what others are doing right now in theirs. you get the point.

and after a few days of missing my wyoming.michigan.colorado.newyork.semesteratsea. friends, i started to wonder how much i was really connecting with people. today was meaningful because i turned off the computer and picked up the phone. today i decided to start to update myself on people’s lives by using a different approach.  a phone call, or even a text message.  a handwritten card or a mid-day email. dinner dates. because while i believe that technology truly has the ability to bring us all closer together, i also think it has the tendency to keep people apart.

after all, some things are just better in person.

i will be the first to say that i still love, appreciate, and value social media. and for now, i know i will more than likely continue to use these different tools. but i will no longer let it replace the conversations i should be having in person. and i will no longer get behind on goals for impersonal communication. i’ve decided there are better ways i would rather be spending my time. and i know there are more valuable things i could be doing.                                                 all things have a purpose and i think that’s important to keep in mind.

and in the end, i just don’t think that looking at a picture can replace hearing the sound of one’s voice. 

try communicating differently.  it will feel different, i promise.


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