Judy, my cactus

Hi Friends!

I’m Jessica and I’m so glad that you are here. I started this blog almost six years ago; its been a beautiful reflection of my personal growth, transformation, and evolution.  I keep finding myself here, sharing my thoughts and learning from the words I write.  I believe we stumble across the right words, life experiences, and relationships during the season of our life that we most need them. I hope my words can offer you the same comfort that taking a walk on a sunny autumn day with leaves crunching beneath your feet does for your soul.

I believe that who we are in individual and seemingly insignificant moments determines who we will be at the end of our days, and so what we do now is important for who we will become.  I am a seeker of self-improvement, inspiration, personal growth, and endless change. I am a believer in kindness, compassion, and offering all people we encounter with our love and grace. I try to respond rather than react and i practice positivity and optimism regularly.

People- with their complexities, dynamic experiences, and intricately weaved webs of life- have always been my greatest fascination and passion.  Deep conversations over warm cups of tea about disappointments, fears, successes, and vulnerabilities soothe a part of my heart that only these connections can fill. I believe that we are here to support each other and that people are doing the best that they can.  I like to see people improve and I believe in being an encourager of progress, in whatever form that may take.


every day i aspire to become a better person–through conversations, life lessons, and personal reflections– and i guess this is what this blog is all about.
let’s grow together.


  1. Yeah bookmaking this wasn’t a speculative decision outstanding post!

  2. digging your blog girl :)

    Keep going…and keep going…and keep going. Then when you put your head up for air, you will find that you have created something truly spectacular. Write away :)


  3. Great blog. Positivity rules!
    Thanks for stopping by my blog and liking my post. Most appreciated.

  4. WOW… where do I really begin … to begin! I felt like I just read a brief description about myself…..!! I worry alot too…but at the same time I feel like evry single person I meet, I want in my life…I love people, sometimes I feel like in a past life I was a care bear. I swear as I was reading that it seriously felt as if I would have said exactly the same thing! I am excited to read your blog! I can relate…I feel the exact same way you do.

    • Hi Brittany!
      Your comment made me so excited and happy! I love that you can relate to me, my posts, and this blog. I feel the same way about wanting all of the people I meet to be a part of my life. I am looking forward to hearing from you more! I would appreciate any feedback or thoughts on my posts :) Thanks again for taking the time to brighten my day!

      • Jaimie says:

        Hi Jessica!

        I could not believe my eyes when reading your “About me.” I feel EXACTLY the same way that you do, about everything. Including fall. And that about 5 times a day I think that I should be doing more. For the past few weeks I have been in the ultimate slump. I had been in this slump for the longest time, but then I finally landed my first big career move and thought, “Okay, now I’ll get out of the slump.” NOPE. Now it is so much worse. I am not a desk-job person. I absolutely cannot settle. And more than ever, I have been yearning to travel the world. I read your twenty something post after a friend sent it to me and told me that it reminded her of me. And it does! I was on my path to making a huge impact on the world, and then I graduated from my big giant liberal university and then I struggled to find the right “career.” I wouldn’t settle for just anything, and I when I finally found the “right” thing, I was devastated. Because I was raised in a house where the right thing is the responsible thing. And I cannot apologize for the fact that I am now crawling out of my own skin, the lowest of the low, yearning to travel the world and make my huge impact – and I cannot, for the life of me, figure out where to start. I cannot thank you enough for your posts. I truly share everything you think and feel (and I’m 2 years from 25)

  5. Ali Borowsky says:

    Hey there Jessica,
    I absolutely adore your blog. Your positivity and outlook on life certainly shines far.
    It seems like you would be totally into this project I created, Find Your Anchor.
    Would you like to Become a Messenger?

    Mission: Simply put, the goal of the Find Your Anchor project is suicide prevention, awareness, education.

    The premise behind Find Your Anchor is that each person needs an anchor. “Establish an anchor — a dependable, stable, secure base that you can hold on to, one that keeps you firmly planted, no matter what winds or storms may come.” Find Your Anchor doesn’t assume to be the anchor, or have all the answers, rather, it sets out to create a community of anchors, all with the help of some little blue boxes.

    The physical form of Find Your Anchor is a small blue box packed with various materials designed to inspire, soothe and offer support. These boxes are then planted in public places (the library, the Vegas strip, etc.) to be found by those in need; specifically those close to suicide in one way or another. The boxes are intended to be organic in the sense that each person can add to the box their own inspiration and anchors before passing it along.

    By raising awareness and through education, this project seeks to create and connect a community who will share in the responsibility and burden of suicide, ultimately seeking to prevent it.

    Despite years of research, studies and the advance of science, we still don’t have a guaranteed means of prevention. However, we do know that support helps, connection matters and that the more help and resources the better. Each person needs an anchor.

    Becoming a Messenger

    The box comes fully equipped, no batteries or assembly required. All you have to do is find a spot to drop the box.

    Some factors to consider when choosing your location are findability and durability. Findability is how likely the box is to be found. Leaving the box on a bench in a bus shelter – great idea! Leaving the box under a huge pile of ugly Christmas sweaters at the thrift store – not so great. Durability – is how long will the box be able to survive in the conditions? The boxes are not waterproof, so seek shelter and be gentle please. But, maybe you have a specific recipient in mind, in that case place box in hands and done!

    It is then “ideal” if you respond (once you get the box) with where you leave it. A picture too, if you’re feeling ambitious! We like to keep track of where the boxes land, whenever possible. You can also post this information on the Facebook page, (www.facebook.com/FindYourAnchor).

  6. Totally appreciate your blog writing! Very inspirational and insightful! As a fellow 20-something, blogger, do you also have a full-time job which also takes up your writing time? I have two blogs that I wish I had more time to create content for, but it sometimes gets hard when all I do is work. It halso hinders my yearning for travel. I used to skip college classes to travel to random cities, now I can only rely on my 14 vacation days a year. How do you do it?

    • Hi Elisha!

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog and comment on this section! I would love to hear more about your blogs! I’m glad I am not the only one who has a hard time keeping their blog updated….I definitely find myself struggling to balance a full-time job, volunteering, training for a half-marathon, blogging, traveling, and sleeping! I have always wanted to write consistently on my blog, but I have found that it is sooo hard to do…so my goal is just to try and make sure that I am finding and making the time for all of my commitments and priorities (easier said than done)-which can often mean using better time management skills and being more productive. Since starting my job, I’ve also found and experienced how hard it is to fit in traveling while furthering my career goals. I try my best to save money in every way that I can- not just for these kinds of trips- but to also help myself financially for the future. I set aside money that is specific for traveling instead of spending it on other, ‘unnecessary things.’ I’ve also been prioritizing my wants and needs so that I’m not taking too much time away from work and my career goals, while also still making sure that I am spending my tie doing the things I love…..I’m not sure if that even answered your question or made any sense, but I guess what I am trying to say is that I’ve been working on balance….not spending too much and not taking too much time off of work, but also making sure to allow some time (even if it takes over a year of planning) for adventures and travel-both of which are important to me :)

      I really hope to hear from you again soon! :)

  7. Jemari says:

    Awesome. To put it simply

  8. Macy Brooks says:

    I feel like we could be best friends… love your blog! :)
    Spontaneity & being Wanderlust go hand in hand <3 Keep doing your thing, would love to meet you someday! [no homo]

  9. Fabulous blog, thanks for the daily hit of something to smile about- also a cupcake/ inspiration fanatic! Thanks for sharing!

  10. Kali says:

    Love the blog! You’re …because I’m twentysomething really added inspiration to my day! Awesome work… looking forward to more….

  11. Wow, I think you might be my twin, Jessica =P -haha- Everything you just have said in your blog, I say almost everyday through my Facebook posts. I think this way everyday of my life. So glad there’s others out there like you. We need more people like you.

  12. really appreciating your writing.

  13. Katelyn says:

    I love your blog and think you’re doing a great thing :) You might light to read this post:http://katelynnow.com/cancer-8-ways-to-live-your-life-to-the-fullest/

    I think goes right along with many of your thoughts and goals for the world. P.S. You are doing a great job!


  14. bythemedi says:

    hi there (i just tried posting but i don’t think it went through because of the wordpress login process so i’m trying to rewrite what i wrote),

    i found your blog via a post on facebook from a friend. your about me section resonates with me in the sense that you remind me of a younger version of myself…before i found the baha’i faith which enabled me to really focus and direct my positive efforts in something much greater, that was also constructive, profound, long-term and holistic. some basic teachings are that all people are part of one large human family, that each of us has individual endowment, power and responsibility in our life, that humans are created noble with inherent capacity and it is our responsibility to develop ourselves and to be of service to others (we are the protagonists of our life), that “the reality of man is his thought” and that the betterment of the world depends on good actions, not simply blind following or blind belief. there are many other teachings as well – such as men and women are equal, science and religion are inherently compatible and education must be universal, etc. anyway, i just wanted to mention it to you.

    wish you the best on your journey.


  15. Laura says:

    Keep on shining bright lady. You’re doing life right! Very inspiring!

  16. I love your blog post, I think you have such a fantastic perspective on life! :] Keep doing what you are doing, because even the littlest acts of kindness will create change. I have enjoyed reading many of your posts & I can’t wait to continue to read more of them, if not ALL of them! You rock pretty lady!

  17. Travis Bell says:

    Absolutely love your outlook on life Jessica. Was led to you through ‘…because I’m a twentysomething’ blog. I agree with your blog 100%. Very refreshing to find someone with a like minded outlook on life, perspective about how it should be lived, and inspiring others to chase their passions. Being twenty (not quite at that 25 mark!) I’ve strived to live my life by design and challenge the status quo which I believe is much what you have done. Gone on 18 vacations in the last 20 months including trips to build schools in Guatemala! Keep up your eternal optimistic view, the world needs more of you! You’re already making an impact here, yet it definitely is only the beginning of your story. Don’t let anyone hamper you from achieving your dreams and passions in life. A day is not wasted if a memory is created.

    “A world is a book, and those who do not travel read only one page” – St Augustine

  18. Abhishek Sharma says:

    I read it whole at once…sat 6 hours to go through every single line……and will take whole life to put it in action. Really i found a Ocean of positive thoughts and actions..i need it..the world needs it!
    wish i was YOU…..:)
    sooo helpful. Keep writing and inspiring me. You’re helping me to change my life.
    Thanks a lot lot lot lot.

  19. Sandeep says:

    wow. a wonderful few paragraphs that sum up a great philosophy. i’m definitely trying to take a page from your book!
    “Great opportunities to help others seldom come, but small ones surround us every day” – Sally Koch

  20. oliver says:

    I just discovered your blog. I m always thinking, struggling to try and make a better world, a difference in the good way. Your blogs inspire me so much. Your words really touched my heart. Thanks for writing them.

  21. Shannon Ramsey says:

    here I am an hour later. sitting in a tiny apartment in florence, italy, in the midst of midterms and papers and due dates and outlines for projects that may never get finished. i am captivated by your outlook on life and completely inspired by your writing. the choice to study abroad for a semester was a giant leap of faith for me and it has already changed my life for the better. i find myself saving paragraphs that you write, especially in the “…because i’m a twentysomething” piece. you really have an incredible insight on the way one should live their life, and its really, really awesome. cheers to you, smile lots today.


    • Jessica says:

      hi Shannon!

      congratulations for studying abroad for the semester! that was one of the best decisions i’ve ever made :)… i hope you are doing a lot of exciting and new things! i am so grateful for you taking the time to read my blog and leave such a beautiful comment. it really warms my heart that you are inspired by my posts, i hope you’ll continue to read them and find them to be useful!

      i know that grades and papers are important and stressful, but i hope you are taking the time to enjoy every millisecond that you have while studying abroad…. you have such a wonderful opportunity to learn about the world and create new experiences, take advantage of that :)

      i would love to hear from you again! and i hope all is well in Florence :)


  22. Fia says:

    I just stumbled upon your blog today, and I absolutely love it!

    Weird thing though! =O As I was reading your about page, it was seriously like I was just reading about /me/. Almost every single thing you’ve said here rings true to me, and my thoughts, and my understanding of life. I think the only thing that you mentioned, which I don’t do is collecting leaves on a regular basis. D: But other than that, word by word, seriously. >: It was like you’re reading my mind; I’m not even kidding.

    Also, I love cupcakes too ;)

    Good luck with everything~
    Hope your days are always always filled with this much positivity and optimism. :) And also, hope that you never forget to take time to just relax~ and go with the flow~ Not try too hard all the time, you know? =) Always know that you are enough, and you do enough. Each day. Just by inspiring so many people through your beautiful writing, and your kind smiles! ^-^

    Have a good day! :)

  23. Melonie M, Jamaica says:

    Hi Jessica, I came across your Aug 6 post today and fell in love with all u said and how u said it, I share the same sentiments and I always try to help my friends when they are feeling down, so I sent them the link asap. I started to go through the overall blog and I feel like our souls have been on similar frequency. I am super honest person and people who don’t know me my take it the wrong way at times, but I wear my heart on my sleeves and I love to express myself. These lines you wrote (i believe in always being kinder than you feel and offering people pieces of my heart) (i occasionally get overwhelmed by the feeling that i should be doing more. i want everyone to be their best self, and i like to see people accomplish their goals. i appreciate change. i also can’t wait to see what happens next.
    every day i aspire to become a better person–through conversations, life lessons, and reflections- and i guess this is what this blog is all about.
    also, i love cupcakes.) These speak to my core its like I was sitting there with you and sharing these thoughts, truly amazing when you realize you are not alone and thanks to technology we can come in contact with people who have similar souls, REFRESHING

  24. Love it!! :) Nice to “meet” you!

  25. Gia says:

    Your posts are beautiful, and your writing flows from the heart.
    A friend sent your page to me, and I just want to thank you for turing my frown upside down :)

  26. Catie says:

    Hey girl, I can totally relate to you about worrying a lot. I constantly stress myself out about what I am doing with my life, where am I going, and if I have chosen the right path. I am my own worst enemy! I wish i was optimistic all the time, I’m constantly doubting myself and assuming the worst. Reading your blog put a smile on my face and has made me think twice about getting so down on myself.

  27. Miss Licko says:

    I have faith in the world again!! You have such a wonderful spirit and beautiful goals :)

  28. Susan Wojtcuk says:

    Hello there! Just came across your blog, and I absolutely love it. I’m starting to blog myself and I think we share many of the same ideals about optimism. Please check out my blog, and tell me what you think! http://susanmaewojtcuk.wordpress.com/

    Keep it up girl, you’re great!

  29. Keep it up girl! Your blog is great!

    I think the best thing about your blog is that I have been lucky enough to come across a way of looking at things that I’d thought was particular to me. And here it is, set down by someone else, a person I’ve never met – you. And it is wonderful to know that we can all band together and “have a positive impact on the world.”

  30. Congratulations!
    I have nominated your blog for the Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award.
    More information at, http://athousandmomentsmore.wordpress.com/2013/11/18/sisterhood-of-the-world-bloggers-award/

  31. Your posts always make me feel better. You have a great writing style and consistently pass on a feeling of inspiration, so I’ve nominated you for the Sunshine Blog Award: http://jigokucho.wordpress.com/2013/11/27/sunshine-blog-award/
    Keep up the amazing work! :D

  32. natasham says:

    I feel like I could have written your about page. I don’t collect leaves but I believe in random acts of kindness, making a difference to someone’s day and trying to be the best version of myself. Life has a funny way of throwing us curveballs and pushing us to change. Can’t wait to explore your blog more xx

  33. gretel24p says:

    What a great blog you have. I also believe you can find meaningful moments in our daily life. I look forward to reading more of it :)

  34. Jojo says:

    I’ve nominated you for The Sunshine Award :) I really love your blog, it’s simple and inspirational ^^ More info here: http://thewriterbehindthecloset.wordpress.com/ I really hope you do it :)

  35. Tone says:

    Stay true to your heart and yourself and everything you write will inspire others.

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